Is therapy right for me?
Seeking out therapy is an individual choice. There are many reasons why people come to therapy. Some include:
- Dealing with an inner conflict or struggle or a conflict or struggle with someone else.
- Seeking assistance for unexpected changes in one's life such as a divorce or unemployment.
- Recovering from a loss that knocks us off our feet when we can't find our footing.
- Finding a place to sort out what we are thinking and feeling as we try to make a decision that is best for us and our loved ones.
- Focusing on our longings and desires.
- Dealing with a crisis in our personal lives, families, jobs, or communities.
- Exploring issues we don't feel comfortable talking with anyone else about.
- Seeking a completely safe, neutral, and nonjudgemental place to delve more deeply into our selves or our concerns.
- Finding a place to say out loud what we've been experiencing and feeling when there has been no other place to do so.
- Dealing with a spiritual crisis feeling as though we've been abandoned by God or done something so terribly wrong we will never experience God's love again.
- Seeking direction in our lives and how to follow our dreams.
- Listening for how the Spirit may be guiding us.
Whatever the reason, working with a therapist, especially one who has been professionally trained to address spiritual concerns as well, can help provide insight, support, hope, and new strategies for all types of life challenges. Therapy is right for anyone who is interested in getting the most out of their life by exploring their wants, needs, and desires as well as taking responsibility for themselves, creating greater self-awareness, and working towards change in their lives.
If you decide to pursue therapy it is important to find a therapist that is right for you and/or your loved ones, one that you can trust, feel safe with, and one with whom you are comfortable.
If you are still not sure, we can schedule a time to talk further and see if counseling is right for you. We can explore if your needs are something I am able to address and most importantly, if I would be someone you would feel comfortable with. At our first appointment we will explore those two issues and decide if a therapeutic relationship is right for us.
Do I really need therapy? I can usually handle my problems.
Everyone goes through challenging situations in life. Often we manage to successfully navigate through the difficulties we face. However, sometimes we need some extra assistance and there is something courageous about seeking out support when we need it. In fact, therapy is for people who have enough self-awareness to realize when we need a helping hand, and that is something to be admired. We take responsibility by accepting where we're at in life and making a commitment to change the situation by seeking help in the many areas it may be available...family, friends, faith communities, counseling, and other resources.
Therapy can provide long-lasting benefits and support, giving us unconditional positive regard and a safe place to explore and develop the tools we need to avoid triggers, re-direct damaging patterns, and overcome challenges we face. It is not a weakness but rather a strength to have the courage to admit when some help is needed and to do the inner work that moves us toward the life we desire.
If at any time you feel your therapy is not helpful you are encouraged to discuss that with your therapist to see what may be getting in the way, either on your part or the therapist's. You may end the relationship at any point and, if it would be helpful, your therapist may help you find another person who may be more in line with what you are seeking. There should be no guilt, shame, or blame attached to your doing so.
How can therapy help me?
A number of benefits are available from participating in psychotherapy. Therapists can provide support, problem-solving skills, and enhanced coping strategies for issues such as depression, anxiety, relationship troubles, unresolved childhood issues, grief, stress management, body image issues and creative blocks. Many people also find that counselors can be a tremendous asset to managing personal growth, interpersonal relationships, family concerns, marriage issues, and the stress that comes from managing a multitude of responsibilities in our daily lives. Therapists can provide a fresh perspective on a difficult problem or help direct you to resources that may help you find a solution. Other ways therapy can help include:
- Attaining a better understanding of ourself, our goals and values
- Developing skills for improving our relationships
- Finding resolution to the issues or concerns that are interfering in our lives
- Learning new ways to cope with stress and anxiety
- Managing anger, grief, depression, and other emotional pressures
- Improving communication and listening skills
- Changing old behavior patterns and developing new ones
- Discovering new ways to solve problems in our families or partnerships
- Improving our self-esteem and boosting self-confidence
- Exploring our spiritual, mental, and emotional selves
- Finding connections with others in groups that help us realize we're not so "weird" after all
- Forming connections with others and ourselves
- Finding lost parts of our selves
- Exploring our family histories to see how they impact us today
- Delving into our unconscious to see what it may be telling us
- Taking time to meet your own needs rather than everyone elses
- Making space for different aspects of ourselves to come forth
- Nurturing and bringing forth our creativity
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What is therapy like?
Every therapy session and therapist is unique and caters to each individual and their specific goals. It is standard for therapists to discuss the primary issues and concerns in your life during sessions. You will often set the direction of where you choose to go in the session. It is common to schedule a series of weekly appointments each appointment lastingd fifty minutes. Therapy can be short-term, focusing on a specific issue, or longer-term, addressing more complex issues or ongoing personal growth. There may be times when you are asked to take certain actions outside of the therapy sessions, such as reading a relevant book or keeping records to track certain behaviors. Sometimes you may be asked to keep track of your dreams or journal. It is important to process what has been discussed and integrate it into your life between sessions. For therapy to be most effective you must be an active participant, both during and between the sessions. People seeking psychotherapy are willing to take responsibility for their actions, work towards self-change and create greater awareness in their lives. Here are some things you can expect in a therapy session:
- Compassion, enpathy, and understanding
- Respect for where you are and where you hope to go
- A completely safe and nonjudgemental environment
- Accountability on your part as well as the therapist's
- Encouragement, affirmation, and unconditional positive regard
- Perspectives to illuminate persistent patterns and negative feelings
- Real strategies for enacting positive change
- Referrals for other or additional assessments or services if needed
Effective and proven techniques along with practical guidance
"Making your unknown known is the important thing."
Is medication a substitute for therapy?
In some cases a combination of medication and therapy is the right course of action. Working with your medical doctor you can determine what's best for you. It is well established that the long-term solutions to mental and emotional problems and the pain they cause may not be solved solely by medication or therapy. Sometimes both may be needed. Instead of just treating the symptom, therapy addresses the cause of our distress and the behavior patterns that curb our progress. We can best achieve sustainable growth and a greater sense of well-being with an integrative approach to wellness.
Do you accept insurance? How does insurance work?
Yes, I am a provider with specific insurance carriers. To determine if you have mental health coverage for the cost of our sessions you will need to check with your insurance company to if you have mental health benefits coverage and if so what they are. We will need to seek authorization prior to our meeting. If you have insurance you will need to bring your insurance cards with you at your first appointment for me to make a copy. If they authorize services I will bill your insurance for you. If it does not cover the services or if you do not have insurance coverage a 20% cash discount is applied. When checking with your insurance please ask them:
- What are my mental health benefits?
- What is the coverage amount per therapy session?
- How many therapy sessions does my plan cover?
- How much does my insurance pay for an out-of-network provider?
- Is approval required from my primary care physician?
- What is the copay?
- Do I have a deductible and if so, what is it?
Is therapy confidential?
Confidentiality is a cornerstone and foundation of a therapeutic relationship. In general, the law protects the confidentiality of all communications between a client and psychotherapist. No information is disclosed without prior written permission from the client.
However, there are some exceptions required by law to this rule. Exceptions include:
- Suspected child abuse or dependant adult or elder abuse. The therapist is required to report this to the appropriate authorities immediately.
- If a client is threatening serious bodily harm to another person. The therapist is required to notify the police.
- If a client intends to harm himself or herself. The therapist will make every effort to work with the individual to ensure their safety. However, if an individual does not cooperate, additional measures may need to be taken.